“Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better.” ~ Sydney J. Harris
Isn’t that so true? We like our lives just the way they are, but they could definitely get better somehow, right?
People hate change. They don’t like it when something goes differently than scheduled. I don’t know what it is about change that scares us. Maybe it’s knowing that you don’t know what’s going to happen. Face it. We like to be in control of our own lives. We like to be the ones to decide where we’re going and what we’re doing, and change throws that all out of kilter. All of a sudden we’re not in control anymore, we don’t know what’s happening or going to happen, and we don’t know what to do about it.
What’s more, sometimes we just don’t want to accept the change. We know it’s there and we can’t do anything about it, and that both angers and frightens us because we are no longer in control. Sometimes we blame God for something that is happening in our life when it’s not really His fault. This can only lead to more heartbreak and plenty of fighting.
But you have two choices. You can either continue to be angry and bitter and just get by, or you can hold your head up, accept the circumstances, and make the best of this situation.
Talk to God. Tell Him how you feel about the current situation, and then trust Him to make things better. He will. Like Caleb Grimm said in his blog Cool Beans (check it out!), “Sometimes change hurts, but that’s okay, because the growth you experience during the pain makes you stronger and more reliant on God.” He said that his identity isn’t found in where he lives or what social groups he’s a part of, but in God and the work He has begun in him. “He has a perfect plan for all of us. And if we let Him, He will be faithful to see it completed.”
“It’s a lot to deal with, because you keep thinking that you either need to change things or you need to stay the course. And so you’re wavering in between, do we keep doing the things that we’re doing and try to do them better? Or do we change some things?” ~ Jim Flannery
There’s always the idea that things won’t change, that they’ll always be exactly the same. Suppose you had a 100% guarantee that nothing would ever be different. That might sound pretty good. You would have the certainty that nothing will go wrong or against you, and you can live safely for all your days.
But doesn’t that sound boring? I know I don’t want it that way because for the four years I was in high school I did exactly the same thing, without any change, and I was definitely not happy. I couldn’t wait for something exciting and unexpected to happen, even if it hurt, because I knew I could learn from it and grow because of it. I can’t wait to get out into the world where nothing is certain, everything is always changing, and I’m forced to depend fully on God. I can’t wait to see if I have what it takes to make it in the world.
“What if I told you ten years from now your life would be exactly the same? Doubt you’d be happy. So why are you afraid of change?” ~ Karen Salmansohn