“A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son grief to his mother.”
I’m sure you’ve heard this verse before. It’s a fairly common one. Perhaps that’s why I decided to take a deeper look at it. This is what I deduced.
Wisdom is important to a father. Having a wise child brings attention and praise to the parents, especially when that child is male. Perhaps wisdom is so important because it raises the father’s reputation. I mean, having a smart kid is pretty cool (I’m guessing ~ I don’t actually know because I don’t have a kid), and the praise you get from your kid’s accomplishments can’t hurt.
Parents are always proud when their child does something right or well. I know it may not seem like it sometimes, but it’s actually pretty obvious that they are. After all, they’ve spent a good hunk of their lives raising the kid as best they can, which takes a certain amount of sacrifice. Have you ever tried raising a child? (Neither have I.) You have to put them before yourself. That’s how it is in any family. That’s what being a family is about.
However, mothers tend to do most of the raising, while the father is supposed to support the family by working and stuff. If the child has a problem, they seem more likely to go to Mom for help because she’s always been there caring for them. So if the kid does something wrong, perhaps it would bring more grief to his mother than his father. Nobody brags on a foolish son. They don’t make a fuss over him, or pay much attention to him, so he’s really only his mother’s problem since it’s her job to take care of him. I’m not saying fathers don’t care as much as mothers. Maybe you should just forget this whole paragraph.
The word “son” can refer to more than just a biological son. It refers to us having someone above us. A “father” or “mother” could be anyone from your real parents to your adoptive parents or even just mentors, teachers, or someone prominent in your life who has helped you or taught you in some way. Mentors, like parents, are proud when their “child” does something right, and disappointed when he does it wrong or not as well as he could have.
“Mentors have a way of seeing more of our faults than we’d like. It’s the only way we grow.” ~ Padme Amidala